I am reading a book called “Running with Angels” right now. It is an awesome book about a Woman who overcame obesity and is now a marathon runner. I just finished a chapter called “Taking Better Care of Mom” and I am not a mother yet but I just really agree with the point she is trying to make. I can relate on a somewhat smaller scale.
The point is simple and it is this…you need to make time for yourself. So many mothers get so caught up in taking care of their families that they forget about themselves. I think that with womanhood comes a lot of pressure to be the perfect wife and mother and we are hard on ourselves about it. Where do you find the balance between doing things for yourself and being selfish? This mother gave example after example of times when she gave up opportunities to do things with her kids like skiing or swimming with them because she was so self-conscious that she couldn’t bring herself to do these things even though she wanted so badly too. What is more selfish, refusing to swim at the mother daughter retreat when your daughter wants to swim with you so bad or putting your day on hold for an hour to go for a walk? Which event do you think her daughter remembered more? The hour she was gone and dinner was five minutes late or the retreat?
It took her a long time but she finally did re-prioritize her life and she made it a point to make time for herself to exercise and she realized that she did have enough time to do it all and she was happier doing it.
Being morbidly obese isn’t my struggle but for me I felt that for the first few months after I married Kirk I had somewhat of an “identity struggle”. I was trying to figure out how to be a new wife and how to balance time with work and I felt that I should be home at night to spend time with the hubbie. Coming into that after 3 years of the “single” life, and having probably way too much time for myself it was for lack of better words a real shock to me. I wasn’t making time for exercise which was something that I had always done in my life, I wasn’t finding hobbies that I liked to do. I took me probably longer than normal people to realize that its ok if Kirk doesn’t like to do the same things as me and that I can still do them on my own. I am a happier person and a happier wife to Kirk if I feel like I am being fulfilled in all areas of my life. And Kirk can definitely fill the part of being an awesome husband and he does, but he can’t fill the spot of me exercising, or having a girls night, or reading a book. Only I can do that for myself.
I feel like this is a concept that I have slowly been realizing in my own life the last few months so it was really nice to see that I wasn’t alone in this. I am also glad that it didn’t take me as
I hope I can remember this when I do become a mom and life gets busier … “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”. Whoever said this was so wise
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Monday’s are the worst right? Not for me anymore, I think Tuesday’s have taken the position of “WORST DAY OF THE WEEK” in my book. When Monday comes around I may be cranky and slow moving but at least I have enough work that piled up over the weekend to keep me busy. And I would even go as far as to say that the slow-moving that accompanies Monday’s is actually in my favor, it makes my work last longer which takes up more time in the day.
Tuesday’s on the other hand are just terrible. Because i’m over the grogginess of Monday I’m alert, awake and all set and ready to work but wait…I caught up on the weekend stuff yesterday and I finished the Monday stuff too. What am I supposed to do today? I have to blame whoever was in this position before me who made the list of daily things to do. They didn’t make anything for Tuesday. So here I sit with nothing to do and only 4 1/2 hours to get it all done. I suppose I will take it upon me right now to rewrite the secretary manual and assign a new job for Tuesdays
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I just got a pedicure over the weekend and while pedicures are amazing in the moment (except for when they scrub my nails really hard..ouch!) whats even better and has longer lasting effects is the happiness that the sparkling nail polish they put on brings me! I just love it! It blows my mind how something as simple as nicely painted-shimmering toenails can make you feel 5 notches higher on the femininity scale.
I’ve made up my mind that from now on if I am paying for a pedicure I will ONLY choose sparkling nail polish. I’ve had it both ways and I am never as happy with the plain stuff. It just doesn’t put that ZING into your life like the sparkles do. This is one area of life that I won’t regret never branching out and trying all the colors. I really feel that I will be completely satisfied with the few favorites I have, they never get old.
While on the subject of pedicures I do have to give a shout out to the cute little Asian girls (and occasionally men) who impress me every time with their skills at flawlessly painting toenails at a fairly quick speed. I would like to say that they have a special nail polish but I know it isn’t true, I have the same brands at home and it never turns out as perfect as they make it. They are talented. Period
Sorry again Kirk for taking up this space on your page, I can only hope that work picks up soon or else this might turn into my website. Love you!
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I am writing because this is Kirk’s idea of something to stop boredom. I am working and besides not having anything to do i also feel a little under the weather which makes my desire to be at home in bed even greater than if I just had nothing to do. This is turning into a depressing post.
On a happier note, it feels awesome outside. The weather is so nice just how it is, not too hot but not too cold either. I took about 4 or 5 extra walks out to the mail box because I couldn’t get enough! I could live in this year round. I wonder what location would be like that. Kirk probably knows. Kirk knows a lot of random bits of wisdom. I definately married up. Ok this post has now become one that is dragging on and all of the content is pretty much pointless. (except that i married up, that is good content.)
Kirk, you have permission to delete this as soon as you want to i love you!
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My name is Kirk Salisbury, and welcome to my website kirksalisbury.com. I live in beautiful Logan, UT
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at Boomerang Leads.